Hey girls! So we have talked about how to activate our feminine energy, and how to heal our feminine energy. Now let’s talk about the difference between masculine and feminine energy, and when and where to use it.
First, masculine and feminine energy has nothing to do with gender, it’s all about aura and the energy you possess. Everyone is equipped with both masculine and feminine energy, but your lifestyle, the way you were raised, and your perspective on life, can affect the balance of those energies. So just know when I write feminine, and masculine, I’m talking about energy, not your outer appearance.
What is Feminine Energy?
Feminine energy is your receiving energy. Think about all the things we desire to receive: love, affection, kindness. Feminine energy is all about allowing things to flow into your life. Romanticizing the little things, taking time out to spend with yourself, and loved ones, and letting your creativity flourish. All of those things are associated with feminine energy.
What is Masculine Energy?
Masculine energy is all about the grind. When you are in your masculine energy, everything is logical, and goal-oriented. In other words, where feminine energy is receiving, masculine energy is delivering. It’s when you are doing the work, you are disciplined, and you are analytical. I like that word analytical because it’s the very essence of positive masculinity. You aren’t in receiving mode. You are looking for your own answers and solutions to your problems, and you are determined to meet the standards that you have set for yourself. You need to be analytical if you want to achieve your goals. You have to do the research, you have to make the money, and you have to get it for yourself. And the feeling after you achieve your goals, is so rewarding.
When and Where To Use Them?
When I first started college, I had a long-distance, toxic relationship with this guy. We had been talking the summer before I started college, and we decided to continue it. We used to get into heated arguments at least two to three times a week. I will never forget this one time we got into such a bad argument, that he said he was too emotional to go to work the next day. But me, I never missed a day of class unless I physically couldn’t go, or if I overslept. When he told me that he was calling out, I felt like he was just making excuses, and being ridiculous. But in all honesty, I was the one that was being ridiculous. I could’ve and should’ve taken a mental health day, every once in a while because looking back I really needed it. I was in such a grind mode, and fully in my masculine energy, that I didn’t take time to feel all the feelings or work through the issues and trauma that relationship actually caused because my vision was too linear.
I also think that the grind culture is praised. The 40-hour work week, with no breaks. But as we are getting more into a culture that is becoming serious about demanding mental health days, and taking time to take care of ourselves, we are starting to learn how to be emotionally mature. I think that the balance of feminine and masculine energy is the key to emotional maturity.
So to be honest, there is space to use your masculine and feminine energies in any situation you are in. For example, let’s say you are at work, and you have so much on your plate, and you feel yourself getting overwhelmed. Balancing your energy, would mean asking for help, taking a break from your desk, or completing all you can that shift, and taking a mental health day the next day. If you are always operating in your masculine energy, and never take time to take care of yourself, you will start to wear that stress. But, at the same time, you can’t always wait for someone to do something for you, or only operate in your feminine energy , especially when you have deadlines, and goals to meet.
This journey isn’t easy, and that’s why I created this platform because I want women just like me to know that they aren’t alone. A lot of us are operating in our masculine energy because we have been hurt, and traumatized, but I want all of us to look at ourselves a year or two from now, and be proud of how far we have come on this journey to femininity.
